LOVE & STUFF
WHO WANTS A TYPICAL LOVE-LIFE?!
SHAME-FREE THERAPY
Whether you consider yourself queer, kinky or simply non-traditional, the last thing you will receive from us is any kind of judgement, rejection or shame. I am a firm believer in ‘designer relationships’ and believe that the first thing you need to discover is what kind of love and sex works best for you?
Queer Ear
Surprisingly, even in the 21st Century, some clients report feeling shamed by their therapist for being gay, bisexual, asexual or anything other than ‘straight.’ Trust me, that is the last thing you will experience with me. I am ready to welcome you with an open and queer ear.
Open Relationships
You might feel that traditional relationships are not right for you and want to explore something a bit more ‘Open.’ Whether that is being “monogamish,” exploring polyamory, or diving into swinging, you have come to the right place for coaching, advice or something deeper.
Living Apart Together
Are you interested in trying a LAT relationship? Or are you already in a LAT relationship and eager for ideas, support and strategies? If so, I can relate and am happy to share my ideas and experience to assist you in pursuing this much-desired relationship structure.
Kink-friendly
Like a bit of “slap and tickle”? Or tired of those who dismiss your desires as a pale imitation of 50 Shades? We fully understand the psychology of kink and fetish and are happy to work with you through any associated difficulties you may be having in this area, from guilt to taking the first step. You do not have to suffer in solitary silence.
Relationship Advice
With the best will in the world, sometimes we simply end up in a different place to our partners. Then comes the panic of realising you have completely different ideas of how to address the situation and which direction to go in. I work with couples and throuples to begin building solutions and making some positive progress.
Sexual Dysfunction
It can be demoralising and embarrassing to have every intention of pleasing your partner(s) only to find that you fall down physically or mentally. Don’t panic! There are often some fairly basic solutions to the vast majority of sexual problems. We are ready to listen and – if we think we can – help.
WHAT DO YOU NEED?
There’s no surprise that intimate relationships are one of the areas where human beings might struggle the most. It’s hard enough being a straight monogamous couple from similar socio-economic backgrounds. Now add in sexual orientation, different cultural expectations, non-monogamy, kinks & fetishes and it’s no wonder that many of us feel like we need someone to talk to.
We can help with a number of common issues.
Shame
Unfortunately, shame is an all too familiar experience for anyone seeking to explore an unconventional love-life or relationship structure. If this is something you need to work through, I am here for you.
Jealousy
It’s not uncommon for past relationship issues to effect our current relatioships, even the good ones. Jealousy is an uncomfortable emotion and if left unexamined can reek havoc on a relationship. Or maybe you are exploring non-monogamy and worry that you will not cope with the jealousy. Either way, jealousy is something that can be managed and even turned around to use for your benefit.
Strategies
So, you know that you want to improve your relationship – and may even know what changes you want to make – but perhaps the first step seems elusive. I can assist you in planning and achieving successful transformation.
Education
Are you seeking to understand why you approach love and sex the way you do? Or keen to learn more about the psychology of kink? Or perhaps you would benefit from information regarding non-traditional relationship structures? If so, I can help point you in the right direction.
Fear
It can be genuinely terrifying to change your relationship in any way, especially if things are mostly going well. However, perhaps you want to introduce some new experiences into the bedroom, or even open things up a bit. I know how scary that can be and can assist you in the process.
Miscommunication
It’s no secret that communication is one of the vital keys to a healthy relationship. You have more than likely tried to share something with your partner(s), only to find them taking offense where none was meant. When this happens, it is natural to shut-down or avoid expressing what is on your mind. I can work with you to master communication in a way that is right for you and your loved ones.